Wednesday, December 21, 2011

High Fever

I know it's been sometime and you guess what's the reason I'm up here again? LOL yea right, from the title, you know that I'm damn sick. I don't usually fall sick, it's like once in 2 years probably?

Angela came over to visit Ck and I last night and so sorry to her that I sort of ruined her plan. Wasn't feeling good that I threw out at Straits Quay. High fever for the whole night and Thank God CK was with me the whole night. What a pity that he didn't have a good sleep but looked after me to try to cool down my fever. Still the same, he had to wake up at 6.30am to get ready to go to work but he didn't forget to prepare water and everything for me. Mummy boiled me kekwa and bought me bihun soup, that was so sweet of her. 


And in the afternoon, Ck sent me a text that says if I get recovered tonight, I would have the chance to go shopping with him tonight as he needs to buy some khaki pants and furniture. Well the text meant something as you can tell o.O". No choice but to drink and drink and drink (drink as in water, not beer lol) to make sure I stand a chance to go out tonight! (I even thought I overdosed water on that day) but with the blessing of God, I got better at night =)

We went to Sunshine and he got himself 2 pants and a drawer set. I helped him to fold his clothes while he was doing the labels for the drawer artistically! Haha. Sometimes I thought I know the position of his stuff better than he does. Anyways, fever yes it is terrible but it could sometimes be a sweet one.

Friday, April 29, 2011

Frisbee Golf vs an American culture shock

It was so nice out. Seriously. I enjoyed the sunshine so freaking much! So the day started out this way, there was this one guy, my FIL 341 classmate texted me to hang out. Well although finals are just around the corner, I said yes to him as I don't have much time left. So he said he would pick me up in 15 minutes to go to a park for a little. Frankly, his two-door sports car was really cool, so I jumped in his car and we headed to Maxwell Park. It was a lovely park for people to play frisbee golf. It was my first time ever playing frisbee golf because we don't have baskes in our quad. Frisbee golf is a fascinating and fun-filled sport! It was totally free on that day, I mean we didn't have any mulligan rules as I was a beginner =)

Well, basically I was always the loser (there were 18 baskets). At the very last basket, I took out my camera, handed to my friend and asked him to do me a favor to record me throwing the frisbee. You wouldn't believe it, I made it in! That was really an incredible shot! I was thinking did the video recorded matter? Did it force me to make my very best? I doubt.


After that he asked if I would like to go over his place to get our assignment due on that day done, well in a normal situation of course I said yes to him. It was pretty close to our school by the way. When we were done, I noticed something was wrong. He started asking if I like massages, if I would give him a chance to massage and stuff. How would I reject him, darn, it is always hard for me to say "no". So I said yes, but I'd prefer to sit up instead of laying down. After 2 to 3 mins, I stopped him by saying, "it's good :)" and he said "I have never had a chance to get a massage before", oopz, how should I response? I remained silent. He made me an egg salad before I suggested to go back. So, we were in the car. ..

"Do you have a boyfriend?"
"I do."
"Then do you guys have tie in between?"
"There aren't any abiding rules, but I do whatever I think I am supposed to."
 "Is it wrong to kiss someone else other than your boyfriend?"
"Definitely."
"So you wouldn't have sex with me, would you?"
"I'm sorry, I wouldn't do that"
"That's alright, cause I thought of that, and it's kinda normal to .. in America."
"Well, that makes sense, cause I'm an Asian ;)"

Reached. And I greeted him goodnight and thanks for the ride and the game.

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Milwaukee Trip

Do you like beer? I do but not every type of beers is my type. Apparently Choon Sian doesn't but sometimes he would be craving for it, @@. We happened to went to Miller Brewing Co. and participated in the tour which provided us samples of their beers. Yummmm. So the tour started out as follows:

Walk outdoors and upstairs to Miller’s packaging-center balcony. A blur of cans roars along conveyor belts that wind through wet machinery, packing up to 200,000 cases of beer daily.

The next stop is Miller’s mammoth distribution center that covers the equivalent of five football fields. Typically, you can see half a million cases of beer.

In the brew house, Miller makes its beer, up to 8.5 million barrels annually in Milwaukee alone. Climb 56 stairs to look down on a row of towering, shiny brew kettles where “wort,” a grain extract, is boiled and combined with hops. Stroll through Miller’s historic Caves, a restored portion of the original brewery where beer was stored before the invention of mechanical refrigeration.

Finish your tour at the Bavarian-style Miller Inn and sample a Miller beer or soft drink. Be sure also to take a few minutes to inspect the impressive collection of antique steins. In the summer, you can enjoy your beverage in an adjoining beer garden enlivened by music.

Jealous of us having free samples of beers? Well, you don't have to, just pay them a visit today! Am not promoting though.

Buddy Choon Sian again!

Great beers man!

This is huge!

Monday, April 25, 2011

Chicago Trip

Yes. It's Chicago again, you could probably tell how much I adore the windy-city with chilly temperatures! This time I was not alone as my pictures tell, Choon Sian, an awesome buddy, accompanied me in Chicago for 2 days. It was so much better than walking alone on the street because you'd have to look for people to take pictures of you. I really appreciate it.

So we went to several places like United Center and Buckingham Fountain - those that we have not been, we also went to Chicago Tribune to be in the headline of Chicago newspaper and visit the legs sculpture of Chicago. Visited the Chicago Cultural Center too, a baronial and dazzling buildinig which full of marbles and lights. You might wanna check it out to hold your wedding party there? That'd be awesome! Oh yea, they do rent it out and every Sat morning you would probably see lotsa people signing up for their marriage registrations there. Well and of course, we spent almost 0.75 day shopping for souvenirs, sounds lil bit scary but that's true, things in Chicago are way expensive! A normal t would cost 19.90 bucks? What do you think? Paying RM60 (excluding 15.1% tax) for a t-shirt? It gotta be kidding me! And of course, we had 2 meals there - The famous deep dish pizza and Thai food. I bought ginseng for bi's mom, anji aunty and teacher Zhao (those who gave me red packets before I came to US, mom said it's a MUST to buy them something) haha, mom is lovely ;)

Sometimes you think things are ridiculous but they happen. We met a couple in Milwaukee, WI and indescribable, we met them twice in Chicago again! And they appeared whenever we need someone to take a picture of both of us. I wonder, did God just simply send someone to give us a hand sometimes?

Still, priority goes to the BEAN!

Chicago Bull rocks~!

Deep Dish Pizza - Lou Malnati's

Sculpture of legs

Thai Tomyum and Red Curry Chicken

Friday, April 8, 2011

The Sleepless Elite

Check out the video provided by The Wall Street Journal


Why some people can run on little sleep and get so much done
For a small group of people -- perhaps just 1% to 3% of the population -- sleep is a waste of time.
Natural "short sleepers," as they're officially known, are night owls and early birds simultaneously. They typically turn in well after midnight, then get up just a few hours later and barrel through the day without needing to take naps or load up on caffeine.
They are also energetic, outgoing, optimistic and ambitious, according to the few researchers who have studied them. The pattern sometimes starts in childhood and often runs in families.
While it's unclear if all short sleepers are high achievers, they do have more time in the day to do things, and keep finding more interesting things to do than sleep, often doing several things at once.
Nobody knows how many natural short sleepers are out there. "There aren't nearly as many as there are people who think they're short sleepers," says Daniel J. Buysse, a psychiatrist at the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center and a past president of the American Academy of Sleep Medicine, a professional group.
Out of every 100 people who believe they only need five or six hours of sleep a night, only about five people really do, Dr. Buysse says. The rest end up chronically sleep deprived, part of the one-third of U.S. adults who get less than the recommended seven hours of sleep per night, according to a report last month by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
[More from WSJ.com: How Much Sleep Do You Need?]
To date, only a handful of small studies have looked at short sleepers -- in part because they're hard to find. They rarely go to sleep clinics and don't think they have a disorder.
A few studies have suggested that some short sleepers may have hypomania, a mild form of mania with racing thoughts and few inhibitions. "These people talk fast. They never stop. They're always on the up side of life," says Dr. Buysse. He was one of the authors of a 2001 study that had 12 confirmed short sleepers and 12 control subjects keep diaries and complete numerous questionnaires about their work, sleep and living habits.One survey dubbed "Attitude for Life" that was actually a test for hypomania. The natural short sleepers scored twice as high as the controls.
There is currently no way people can teach themselves to be short sleepers. Still, scientists hope that by studying short sleepers, they can better understand how the body regulates sleep and why sleep needs vary so much in humans.
"My long-term goal is to someday learn enough so we can manipulate the sleep pathways without damaging our health," says human geneticist Ying-Hui Fu at the University of California-San Francisco. "Everybody can use more waking hours, even if you just watch movies."
Dr. Fu was part of a research team that discovered a gene variation, hDEC2, in a pair of short sleepers in 2009. They were studying extreme early birds when they noticed that two of their subjects, a mother and daughter, got up naturally about 4 a.m. but also went to bed past midnight.
Genetic analyses spotted one gene variation common to them both. The scientists were able to replicate the gene variation in a strain of mice and found that the mice needed less sleep than usual, too.
News of their finding spurred other people to write the team, saying they were natural short sleepers and volunteering to be studied. The researchers are recruiting more candidates and hope to find more gene variations they have in common.
Potential candidates for the gene study are sent multiple questionnaires and undergo a long structured phone interview. Those who make the initial screening wear monitors to track their sleep patterns at home. Christopher Jones, a University of Utah neurologist and sleep scientist who oversees the recruiting, says there is one question that is more revealing than anything else: When people do have a chance to sleep longer, on weekends or vacation, do they still sleep only five or six hours a night? People who sleep more when they can are not true short sleepers, he says.
To date, Dr. Jones says he has identified only about 20 true short sleepers, and he says they share some fascinating characteristics. Not only are their circadian rhythms different from most people, so are their moods (very upbeat) and their metabolism (they're thinner than average, even though sleep deprivation usually raises the risk of obesity). They also seem to have a high tolerance for physical pain and psychological setbacks.
"They encounter obstacles, they just pick themselves up and try again," Dr. Jones says.
Some short sleepers say their sleep patterns go back to childhood and some see the same patterns starting in their own kids, such as giving up naps by age 2. As adults, they gravitate to different fields, but whatever they do, they do full bore, Dr. Jones says.
"Typically, at the end of a long, structured phone interview, they will admit that they've been texting and surfing the Internet and doing the crossword puzzle at the same time, all on less than six hours of sleep," says Dr. Jones. "There is some sort of psychological and physiological energy to them that we don't understand."
Drs. Jones and Fu stress that there is no genetic test for short sleeping. Ultimately, they expect to find that many different genes play a role, which may in turn reveal more about the complex systems that regulate sleep in humans.
Benjamin Franklin, Thomas Jefferson and Leonardo da Vinci were too busy to sleep much, according to historical accounts. Winston Churchill and Thomas Edison came close but they were also fond of taking naps, which may disqualify them as true short sleepers.
Nowadays, some short sleepers gravitate to fields like blogging, videogame design and social media, where their sleep habits come in handy. "If I could find a way to do it, I'd never sleep," says Dave Hatter, a software developer in Fort Wright, Ky. He typically sleeps just four to five hours a night, up from two to three hours a few years ago.
"It's crazy, but it works for me," says Eleanor Hoffman, an overnight administrator at Bellevue Hospital Center in New York who would rather spend afternoons playing mahjong with friends than sleep anymore than four hours. Sometimes she calls her cousin, Linda Cohen, in Pittsburgh about 4 a.m., since she knows she'll be wide awake as well -- just like they were as kids.
"I come to life about 11 at night," says Mrs. Cohen, who owns a chain of toy stores with her husband and gets up early in the morning with ease. "If I went to bed earlier, I'd feel like half my life was missing."

Sunday, April 3, 2011

Drastic change of "Normal" 's weather

According to dictionary, "normal" means common or typical. 
The following picture shows the weather forecast of Normal, why isn't it normal?
I enjoy the sun so freaking much! It is so nice out!
This post is basically for fun by the way.

Chicago Trip

Yup, it's the Windy City one day trip organized by International House. Departed at 8am so I didn't get a chance to buy a Subway sandwich but I had breakfast so it was fine. Visited the Field Museum and the 3D was undoubtly impressive, I wish I would have a chance to visit Sue, T-Rex! A quick tour was then given and followed by that, we took off at north end of Millenium Park. Donglai and I had lunch ini Chipotle together and I spent almost 10 dollars for that meal + chips & guaca. We then headed to John Hancock observatory and surprisingly it was free because as far as I remembered, ChoonSian once told me it costs around ten bucks. Due to my craving for more food, Donglai walked me to a mall to buy some bao's' (buns), 5 bucks for 3! They were really savory and I am not kidding.

After that we separated as we have our own destination. So I walked all the way down to the Adler Planetarium through Navy Pier but I didn't get to visit the planetarium as it closed at 5, but I did enjoy the gorgeous scenes by the Nave Pier! It was great traveling alone sometimes as you do not have to put other people's time in your schedule and you are freed to make your own decision. However, it was really hard to hunt for an experienced photographer sometimes. But I was blessed to have some nice pictures with the AT&T sculpture! As time approaching 8pm, I lingered around the downtown and stayed for 15 minutes in Borders when my skimpy and delicate sweater did not allow me to stay in the breezy weather. Everything went smooth and we reached our dorm as scheduled. Donglai then drove me to Fusion Brew and I had a glass of Taro Milk Tea with Boba before the whole trip came to the end. Overall it was awesome!


AT & T Plaza sculpture


The Navy Pier

Friday, April 1, 2011

Indian Night

How many of us really understand how an Indian marriage works? ISA happened to introduce this splendid celebration to us through the Indian night. Joanne was invited in the fashion show so Fuey, Ola and I went to there to support her as well. The night was really long but I had fun because I knew most of the Indians who were participating in this event. They really did a great job.

At first, we had loads of dancing and singing slots. I love children so I captured tons of their pictures when they were dancing on the stage. Please help me to recognize them, they were really naive and adorable! Sketch, by most of my friends. It was about 2 teenagers fond on each other yet for your information, in India, arranged marriage is common in the society. At the very beginning both of their parents strongly expressed dissent towards them to be together so for that moment, what you could do was only trying to approach other family members to make things easier and be perseverant to your stand. Believe that your destiny is in your hand. And they made it! Also, they showed us how an Indian marriage is like, the ceremony and the way they celebrate. Check out the pictures below!









Thursday, March 31, 2011

It is end of March

Without realizing, it is April fool tomorrow! Time flies and out of nowhere my biological clock started functioning this morning. One thing is, you guessed it - I was thinking about my journey going back to Malaysia. This is astonishing but I choose to believe that, time flies. Looking at my suitcases I mumbled when I was roaming on the hallways. Couldn't believe that I will again board on a damn long 13 hours flight from Paris to KL, that sucks! Thinking about that leads to me to a dizziness that would eventually throw me up. And because of that, I chatted with JT for a while, thought of Gaik Kuen and Mei Juan, secondary and uni friend respectively.

I-house is organizing a tour trip to Chicago this weekend and I have been struggling if I wanna spend a day there but I finally came up with the decision, GO. Seriously, thinking of loads of souvenirs would drive me demented. Is this the disadvantage of having tons of friends? A keychain costs the least 2 bucks (no more converting should be done at this moment or it would drive me nuts). I could not count with ten fingers nor toes. Primary, secondary, high, university and relatives, as you could see, a lot of them. I wish I would have gazillion dollars to buy them neat stuffs. Hence, this left me no choice but chose to check out some items in Chicago. It would be fun!

Effort plays an important role in this decision making process. I will have to rush on few chapters before Saturday so that everything goes as planned. My heart grows stronger toward Actuarial Science today, it fades sometimes though. Approaching 22, the wonky thoughts of future is making me wobbly. This should not happen in me, a finite direction should have assigned by now. Isn't this how life supposed to be? Determination and discipline shall come back by today. Remembered I Zaolon's favorite quote, "Excellence is a habit". Yes, I cannot afford to waste one more second straying on FB. Thus, 10 minutes per day is just great!



Sunday, March 27, 2011

4 Questions to ask yourself before you write ANY marketing message

by Ali Brown



Your marketing message is the bridge that connects your business to the outside world. Even on your busiest day, you must filter out the madness happening behind the scenes and deliver your message in a clear, compelling way that gets results. 
So how can you do this in a quick and easy way? The next time you sit down to craft your next marketing message -- whether it's for an email broadcast, a tweet, a sales letter, a video, or a brochure -- ask yourself these FOUR questions. 

QUESTION 1: "Who is your audience?"
Have you ever heard of a business owner who didn't want everyone to love their product? Even when we know we should have a target market, it's tempting to want to cater to the masses and eventually win them over. But usually when you try to please them all, you end up engaging no one -- and this rings especially true when it comes to marketing copy. 

Before you write down a word, you should know WHO your audience is. Many writers, dancers, singers, and actors -- those in expressive, creative fields -- are often advised to zero-in on one person in the audience and perform for that individual. That way, you know you're connecting with one person, and there's a good chance others will perk up for your message as well. Try this exercise for yourself and see how much it helps.

QUESTION 2: "What do they want?"
Once you've got an image or idea of that one person reading your marketing message, try to think of what they need. And think outside of your product on this one ;). If it's Monday, maybe they've got the post weekend blues and need some inspiration. A new mom might need a laugh. Think of all types of needs that this person might have, like assurance, relief, hope, fun, connection, to name just a few.

Don't limit yourself. Even just having a few different needs of your audience floating around in your head while you write will help.

QUESTION 3: "How can you meet their needs?"
Brainstorming potential needs of your target market can make it easy to come up with your "angle" -- the decisive way in which you'll appeal to your audience.

From a marketing perspective, you want to be able to match your audience's needs with your product/service. But if you can't set up a perfect match, it's okay -- just be sure to satisfy the need. So, if you like the idea of offering a little inspiration to your readers in your Monday morning broadcast, be sure to deliver inspiration. Only when you satisfy that need is it okay to make your call to action.

QUESTION 4: "What next step do you want them to take?"
It's funny how many people forget to make this part clear in their marketing messages. As much as you want your readers to opt-in to your ezine, become a fan on Facebook, attend your seminar, and buy your product, you MUST focus on only ONE "call-to-action"!

So, think about what you want your readers to do at the end of your message. And be aware that it's not always about making the direct sale. For example, email messages are usually not the best vehicle to SELL your products. You're much better off driving them to your website, your video, or your customer service department to learn more. These longer sales tools are where you can really go in for the close. So your call-to-action in an email might be to get them to go to your sales page online.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

He made it!

Waiting for hours, days and months, finally HE GOT IT! An email from the U.S. made him shouted, in the fullness of his joy. Nobody would be able understand his feelings. Didn't feel to be apart with his friends yet the enthusiasm deep inside drove him so crazy to fly over here. A long flight finally landed him in LA, a place he loves to the max. Has been busy with his documentation stuff for these couple days and he got his Social Security Number. Trainings doesn't sound bad at all as he gotta wander around and check out new places and people while doing the paper work. I am proud of him, having the chance to learn about American cultures. It's a process of culture shock - culture influence - reverse culture shock. So as what I could tell is he has a roommate and apparently LA's weather isn't as nice as I thought, it was 40F and was kinda chilly for him. Bundle up and he will soon be fine as he is great in adapting himself in new environment. 2 hours later than Midwest, it is 1230am and his place is 1030pm, am waiting for him to come on Skype to say hi and bye but sadly, he is not on the line. So instead of lingering around, I thought of coming here to reminiscence the mood of writing. Although I know that no one will come here and check out the posts but that's OK cause I don't write it for anyone. It is just about an unbound writing space of mine =) Goodnight!


Friday, March 4, 2011

Relationships vs Business

by Ali Brown

Question: As I grow as a solopreneur, I see myself growing beyond my personal relationships, including my husband. I then self-sabotage myself to avoid the "obvious". How do we avoid this?
-- Vidette Vanderweide, AV2 Concept, Dana Point, Calif. (MPC Platinum Member)
Ali's Answer: "Ah Vidette, well first of all, I admire your courage to address this issue. It's part of success, and not always a pleasant part. Of the hundreds of women I've coached personally over the years, this issue comes up more often than not. You see, as you step into your power and growth, and into your highest good and purpose on the planet, your energy shifts. As you know, everything in the world is made up of energy, including us. And as your vibration raises, everything that is not in resonance with it will start going wonky. And that especially includes your relationships. I have much personal experience with this, as most every time I've gone through a significant uplevel personally, it brought up issues with my partners. 
There was a point I was dating this one great guy for months, and everything was going dandy until I went through a huge uplevel. And then, guess what? Things in HIS business started blowing up, new challenges emerged with his children from a previous marriage, and he was suddenly involved in a lawsuit. But you see, these were issues that were brewing under the surface all along. He just hadn't chosen to deal with them. 
And now, as my vibration was rising, his vibration was trying to match mine. So everything in his life that was NOT in alignment was bubbling to the surface to be handled. A bit too fast and painful for him, and us. In the end, he just wasn't willing to do the personal work it required to uplevel himself and save our relationship, so things didn't work out. I blessed him and went on my way. I could not be held back from the work I'm here to do and the purpose I've been blessed with from God.
I used to think this only happened to me, until I'd see it happening with nearly every woman I mentored through a large increase in her business. For us, business IS a journey of personal growth, of stepping into our true power, and even when we are making changes for the better, there will be some things that have to fall away. Now, listen... when it comes to relationships, I am in no way an expert! But you basically have three options: 
1. Do nothing, accept the situation, and love your partner for who he is. If you have needs that are not being met, such as having someone to talk about deeper spiritual or business issues with, do it with a friend or colleague or in some type of group for that purpose. (Warning: If you find yourself holding back your success to make him comfortable, this is not the right option for you.)
2. Ask your partner if he wants to come along for the ride. Explain to him you're on this exciting journey and you'd love to share much of what you're learning with him. See if he's open to doing coaching or workshops together, or if you need to work on critical issues, consider some couples' therapy. (But if he's not willing to do the work, be ready for option 3.)
3. Decide to move on. There is a way to still love and support each other and at the same time recognize that it's in your highest good to continue your growth on separate paths. This is often the scariest decision, and it always feels incredibly selfish. But EVERY woman I've seen do this for herself after she's been trapped in a relationship that held her back has dramatically blossomed afterwards. And what's wonderful is often her previous partner finally finds his own path as well. 

Monday, February 21, 2011

Life is never the same again

I am grateful as God bestowed upon me the most precious opportunity to discover a new life in the states. Ever since I came here, contemplating all the changes made in me, I know I have gotten to know myself better and better. I saw a particular propensity for enthusiastic in me, am I Americanized? Hugs is nonetheless the greatest greeting ever, hugging a friend makes me feel joyful and definitely, I allow my happiness to be contagious as how it is. I couldn't tell if you are tolerable with this American culture, you could, let me know perhaps? Kinda like the changes which attempt to stay with me, they are natural and easy-adapt. The "me" sometimes flunked, but my grieve was not as much as I used to before I came to US. Did I change? Am I depraved? Did the changes lead me astray from the proper life I used to have? No, they didn't. They make me a better person and somehow I retain my principles very well. Before I came to this easygoing sphere, friends admonished me as the U.S. was a rough world. Yes, they were right ONLY IF you don't have a strong mindset then you could easily fall prey to it. Some friends of mine, they changed, just like I did but in a different way. Alcohol is as crucial as part of their life, party is necessary during the weekends. I don't deny that partying is definitely a good way to socialize with peoples cause at the meantime you do enjoy, as an imbiber but the intemperance of alcohol consumption might also ruin your social networking, you never know especially when you are drunk. I do drink but occasionally, not in a bar but simply at friends' house. I wanna bring back the great values to Malaysia and practice them, if I weren't given a chance to get to know the cultures in America, my life would definitely not be the same. Sometimes, things happen once in your life, you don't get to choose to rewind thus, appreciate it. Yup, Life is never the same again! Wooho0




Friday, February 11, 2011

Optimize Your Time to The Max

by Ali Brown, Make Time to Accomplish Your Goals Now
Have you ever had one of those days when you are busy working on your business all day, but at the end of the day you feel like you've accomplished nothing? You're not alone. In today's competitive environment, it's not enough to be busy -- you need to be productive, working toward your goals and your bottom line, or your business won't thrive. 
Your most important skill is being able to make TIME for your money-making business visions. That's the difference between being a "hamster on a wheel" versus finishing that information product, starting that membership program, or hosting the live event of your dreams.
So, if you need some strategies to get your day moving in the right direction, read on for a few helpful tips:
Know your most productive time. Are you the type who jumps out of bed full of energy and your highest level of creativity, or do you not hit your stride till the afternoon or evening? Know when you hit your peak and schedule your most important tasks then.
Block your time for designated tasks. Your most vital appointment to keep is with yourself. Schedule time for getting your important goals accomplished each day and don't let another week, month, or year go by without achieving your business visions.
Delegate your distracters. That email needs answering, and you need to update your social media accounts, and that invoice needs to get sent out. Life needs attention, but delegate everything you can to your virtual assistant to clear your decks and your mind for productive work.
Create a Zen workplace. You won't get your best work done if the TV is blaring, the phone is ringing off the hook, and a pile of overdue bills is staring you in the face. Make your workspace a place where you love to be that is tidy, comfortable, and beautiful and that promotes your creativity.
Take breaks. It's tempting when you are under a deadline to power through your lunch and not get up from your chair. But getting up, moving around, and getting the blood flowing will help reenergize and refocus your mind. So take 10 or 15 minutes to revitalize, and then get back to it.
Fend off the time zappers. Whether it's your smart phone alerting you to a post on your Facebook account or your friend down the street who drops by, you need to guard your productive time. Turn off the smart phone and let your friend know you'll touch base later and get back to work.
Keep it simple. You know how you decide to recover a chair and pretty soon you're remodeling your entire home? It's easy to complicate things and then they become overwhelming. Keep your goals in front of you and when you go off on tangents, gently guide yourself back to the essential task at hand.
Let go of what doesn't matter.  You can waste time obsessing about some of the little details that can be highly distracting. Step back, get some perspective, and stay focused on the big, money-making picture.
Schedule downtime. It's tempting when your overloaded to work the weekend, but don't do it. You need your time off to rest, recharge, and play so that you won't get burned out. It's amazing how much creativity emerges during these restful times. Sleep is essential as well (and recent studies reveal how important sleep is for weight loss too!).
Work on one thing at a time. In case you haven't heard, multitasking doesn't work. You're less efficient at each task you try to do at the same time. Focus on your one essential objective and you'll get it done faster and better.

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Not All Friends Are Equal

"True happiness consists not in the multitude of friends, but in their worth and choice." – Samuel Johnston
They are your closest confidants and most passionate cheerleaders who make the bad times bearable and the good times even better. Your gal pals know you better than anyone else. But no matter how much you love them, you can’t expect your friends to be everything for you all the time. Life is so complex and multi-layered -- no single friend is equipped to handle your multitude of different needs, wants, and desires.
You must cultivate a collection of friends to help you handle every aspect of your life. Think of it as being a little like running your business. You always employ the right person for the right job, so in your private life, pick the right friend for the right need. Worried about taking the company in a new direction? Call Barbara; she’s adventurous and has sound business advice. Can’t decide whether your new boots will go with the purple trench coat? Get in touch with Jane -- she’s a fashion diva, always on top of the latest trends. To cover all your bases, surround yourself with friends who each possess at least one of the following traits.
The positive pal
This is someone endowed with boundless energy who is always looking on the bright side of things -- even when it appears a bright side cannot be found. She sees potential barriers as mere hurdles to kick over. This is the friend that not only gives her approval by way of a thumbs up and an emphatic “Go for it!” when told you’re taking a year off to write poetry -- this is the friend that takes less than a nanosecond to do it.
The truthful pal
There’s no hidden agenda here. She’ll always tell it like it is. If that outfit makes you look like a balloon, she won’t be shy about saying so. This isn’t done with any malice -- the truthful pal only has your best intentions at heart.
The fashionable friend
Avoid those clothing calamities and wardrobe disasters with a fashionable friend who has the style tips and advice that are just right for you. She always knows what shoes go with which outfit and is a genius when it comes to accessorizing your look.
The forgiving friend
No one is perfect, but this friend will always forgive your faults. As Elbert Hubbard once said, “A friend is someone who knows all about you and loves you just the same.”
The travel buddy
Whether you want to dive off the Great Barrier Reef, explore the pyramids of Egypt, or be pampered in a health spa, this friend wants to discover the world with you. She’s good at compromising; and like you, is just as happy by the pool, the bar, or on top of a mountain.
The party pal
When it’s time to dress up like a diva and hit the party hotspots, grab the friend who’ll make you giggle and forget the burdens of business. This friendship is about spontaneity, fun, and great times.
The faithful friend
She is devoted to you at all times. Whatever life throws at you, the faithful friend is always there at the other end of the phone and willing to jump on that plane, train, or automobile to be with you in your hour of need.
Picking and cultivating good friends is one of life’s greatest skills. It’s not easy but the results can be truly amazing. Think of each pal as a specialist, and you can call on their expertise at anytime. It’s like having your own team of special advisors.